Red Responds: Is the Relationship Over?

February 2, 2014 at 12:00 am
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Your Relationship: What are They Trying to Say?

Denise from Dorchester asks:

If my boyfriend tells me he needs space because the connection is not there, does this means he’s trying to tell me in a nice way that the relationship is over?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Denise,

I hate to say this, but your boyfriend is being honest with you. Try to appreciate that he does care a lot about you, and really doesn’t want to hurt you or be cruel. But for a while now he has been struggling with feeling more than a bit smothered by the confines of the relationship.

Please don’t think you did anything wrong, because you didn’t. It’s not as if there was an event or specific aspect that has caused this; it’s just been building up over time. Your boyfriend is, and has been, struggling with his own emotions and his place in life.

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Red Responds: Did He Abandon You for Someone Else?

August 17, 2013 at 12:00 am
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How Long Should She Wait for Him?

Ana from Loveland, Colorado asks:

My boyfriend left to see his mom in October, and ever since then I have not had a phone call from him or any other kind of contact. He hasn’t even called to see if his son is okay. I sometimes think he abandoned us but I don’t want to think the worst of him because I love him. What should I do? Should I wait for him to come back?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Ana,

While you will see your boyfriend again, I can’t sit here with a clear conscious and tell you to wait for him. While he did go to see his mom, she’s not the only woman he’s spent time with. I’m not telling you this to hurt you; I’m telling you because you have the right to know that he hasn’t been exactly loyal in this time of absence. That, along with his silence, is something you need to consider if you want to wait around for him.

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Red Responds: How to Use Your Psychic Abilities

August 10, 2013 at 12:00 am
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Get in Touch With Your Innate Psychic Ability

Aubrey from Lincoln asks:

I believe I have psychic gifts. I am just unsure exactly what to do and how to master them. Can you tell me what you see in me and what to do?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Aubrey,

You may think that is a simple question, and that I can give you a simple answer, but I can’t. It doesn’t always work that way.

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Red Responds: Get Past a Bad Breakup

July 20, 2013 at 12:00 am
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Get Over the Breakup and Enjoy Life Again

Aubrey from Jackson asks:

I just recently broke up with someone, and he is being quite spiteful about it. He goes out of his way to flirt with my close friends just to make me jealous and miserable. Frankly, I can’t say he isn’t getting to me. He’s said horrible things behind my back to others. He’s said he dislikes me more and more every day, and that I’m affecting everybody negatively except for him. I wasn’t quite sure what he meant by that, but I assume that he believes that I’m being cruel to him in a way that makes him conclude that I’m only hurting myself and the people around me. All I know is that I have this unyielding hatred and bitterness inside me for him now. I want to be able to forget about him and move on. Please give me your thoughts.

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Aubrey,

I’m sorry you have to endure such childlike games after a breakup. Unfortunately, and you should know this better than most, your ex often has a need to “look good” or be the center of attention. The avenues he takes to get the attention he craves isn’t always the healthiest or kindest avenues, and you have the misfortune of being on the receiving end. Of course it’s going to get to you. And, as some mutual friends are in the mix, he really trying to get a few people to take “sides.” It’s all very unpleasant, and very immature.

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Red Responds: Who Should You Choose?

May 4, 2013 at 12:00 am
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How to Manage Difficult Romantic Decisions

Lisa from Harrison asks:

Two years ago my fiancé cheated on me and we broke up. I started dating someone else and fell head over heels, but because of a lot of confusion and miscommunication I thought he didn’t feel the same way. Meanwhile, my fiancé and I got back together. He has tried to make it work and has been good to me as much as he can, and I know he loves me, but the guy I dated while we were apart is still communicating with me and has told me he is in love with me. I’m so confused, I can’t stand it. I feel like I’m in love with both of them. I’m used to the one I’m with and we have an easy, comfortable relationship, but I feel so connected to the other that I can’t focus on my existing relationship. I don’t know which of the two I should be with. I know it’s selfish, but I love both of them and I can’t get over the other man. What should I do?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Lisa,

First and foremost, I want to let you know that it is possible to be in love with more than one person at a time. There are many who will argue this, but, we people like to have a pretty clean instruction manual on the do’s and don’ts of life. Unfortunately, the human experience often veers off of that nice, clean, A-B-C path.

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Red Responds: You Cheated. Now What?

April 27, 2013 at 12:00 am
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Dealing With the Aftermath of Infidelity

KM in Southern California asks:

It still makes me feel guilty to this day, but I sorta had a threesome with my old roommate and her boyfriend. My boyfriend knows that I was involved with the girl but he doesn’t know I was with her boyfriend as well (The girlfriend was there when this happened, and she’s okay with it because we were all drinking and I didn’t do it behind her back. I think she has a thing for me as well as her boyfriend.). The reason I say sorta is because I was drinking and I was only there for like 10 minutes when I realized what I was doing and didn’t feel right about it.

I’ve been in a long-term relationship and I do love him with all my heart and am now moving in with him. I asked him in a way that wouldn’t connect the dots to me, that if he were in a similar situation, what would he do about it. He said, “For things like that I would take it to the grave and deal with it and never say anything.” That made me feel a bit better, but why do I still feel SO guilty? Should I really take it to the grave as he has said and deal with it, or speak up? I’ve been open, honest and very communicative with him and he has with me, but that’s one thing that I cringe about. It’s one of those things that I feel you just don’t speak of ever. Can you guide me as how it would be if I did or did not tell him? Please help!

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Red Responds: Walk Away From Your Ex

April 6, 2013 at 12:00 am
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Does a Divorce Mean it’s Over?

Anita from Winston Salem asks:

I have been divorced since 2003 and I am still mourning my divorce. My ex will not even speak to me. He acts like it was all my fault. He cheated on me and kept all the money to himself, yet we did have a good relationship (or so I thought). I saw him at his mom’s funeral. He kissed me on the forehead and looked at me like he still loved me. I believe he does, but he just won’t talk to me. I have tried dating others, but I have had no luck. I’m just not interested. It’s like I am holding a torch, hoping he will call or want me back. I am 61 and he is 58. I have moved back to NC and he is still in GA.

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Anita,

You have quite a history with your ex husband. That is something that is hard to forget; harder still to just walk away from. But, you need to try. The two of you built and shared a life, but it is no longer that time or place. Your ex has moved on. I’m not saying he doesn’t still care for you, because he does. He always will. Sadly, it’s not the same kind or depth of love that you still hold for him. I’m sorry to say this, but I don’t see him coming back to you.

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Red Responds: What is Your Life Purpose?

March 30, 2013 at 12:00 am
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They Only Seem Like Detours

Andrea Lynn from Uxbridge-Milford asks:

Hi, Red. I’m really starting to question my life purpose/destiny and I’m never sure I’m on the right path. I want to make a difference, be successful and have a family of my own. I thought I knew what I was meant to do and be, but now I feel like I have taken too many detours. What will I end up doing with my life? Am I on the right track to getting there? I keep wondering if destiny can be altered? I do know I made some wrong turns, but I also know I’ve learned a lot. I just want to be happy and achieve what I was put on earth to do,even if it means I won’t have the 2.5 kids and true love I used to desire. I would rather have the dream house! All in all I guess you can see why I am questioning spirituality, life paths and destiny. I need guidance and wonder if anyone has been assigned to help me on my path because I feel lost. Thank you for your valuable intuition.

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Andrea Lynn,

Your life path presents almost in sections, so I’d have to say some of the “detours” you’ve taken were extremely purposeful, and not necessarily a detour at all. Instead, I’d have to say they were pit stops on the road to enlightenment. You have learned a lot and had some fun in the process. There’s nothing wrong with that!

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