It’s being reported that Elizabeth Edwards has finally reached a breaking point in her almost 40 year marriage to former Presidential candidate John Edwards. Given the latest round of infidelity accusations (a former aide is publishing a new tell all book alleging numerous affairs), Elizabeth wants to call it quits.
Famous for standing behind her husband despite her battle with Stage 4 breast cancer, Elizabeth has a Moon Trine Mars – meaning she is assertive and deals with confrontation in a no nonsense way.
My question to you (Bloggers and Psychics) is when is enough enough? Do cheaters ever change? Is it better to stay or go?
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Hi Sea Turtle,
Oldee does not even come close to a serial cheater……
Hugs…Gina Rose ext.9500
I think that’s what “Oldee” has…
Hi Ladies,
A controversial thought for you. What about the thought of something in our vibration has attracted this cheater into our experience? I realize it’s a big thought to wrap our mind around, and I have to admit that the only time I came across it as my own experience was when I was 12 years old. However, being metaphysical we should realize that our experiences are a results or an attraction of our vibrations. It could perhaps be a subconcious fear of being cheated on.Or it could be a problem we have with rusting fully. Not to say that it’s acceptable but it requires inner work on the the part of the person that was cheated on, as well as the actual cheater.
One more thing though…..there is a big, gigantic, difference between a ” serial cheater ” and somebody who say , cheated only once because special circumstances.
Serial cheaters/addicts fall into the same group of other compulsive addicts….those who are addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling…or as in the case of cheaters…addicted to sex and the ” conquest ” that goes with sex.
Blessed Be )O(…Gina Rose ext.9500
Hi, Corinne,
It does seem like we are all on the same page on this topic. I definitely agree with you that it is possible to recognize when someone is just a natural-born, perpetual cheater. (Eek,
Everyone has their own sense and timing on stay or go and is definitely entitled to follow their own timing and heart.
I wonder how many of us here are able to follow our own advice:) I think we all fall down on that from time to time.
Glad to work with you,
Maryanne
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Hi….
From reading for Psychiatrists, Psychologists, and therapists for so long….some who refer their patients to me…..I can say that 75% will cheat again.
However, for the other 25%….
….I HAVE seen people change for the better and never cheat, ( or touch alcohol or drugs, or gamble ) again. Those are the few who really want to better themselves and are willing to make the effort, invest the moeny in therapy, and…do the work.
As far as Elizabeth goes….she reached the point of no return…the point when she could no longer live in a state of denial and keep her head buried in the sand. Her idiot husband, going public with his affair, was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
You go Elizabeth !!!! With her Moon trine Mars…she has the strenght to carry on and find happiness.
Her soon to be X-hubby though will go on to reap what he has sowed over the past many years…and it isn’t pretty.
Blessed Be )O(…Gina Rose ext.9500
Hey Maryanne,
I just wish people would learn from their mistakes, and I don’t feel people who cheat upwards of two times have that ability. I agree people should move on Vs. wait in cheating scenarios, but like you said everyone is different. I know if my husband cheated, I would have that tendency to wait around almost forever, I would be able to help myself. “the heart wants what it wants.” I guess in that sense I wouldn’t be able to take my own advice. 
. I’m such a loyal person, I just have that tendency to stick by people I’m with…but I wish I would have read this post years ago!! Instead of learning things the hard way on my own.
I used the same term “serial cheater” before I read your post lol(it’s cool how we’re all on the same page with that). I like to believe people change, but there really is a psychology behind cheating, you could tell from reading your first paragraph. I agree each individual is different, and it really depends on the person, but they’re are some people you have that natural intuition with where you can just feel they’re not going to change. Those people are the “serial cheaters” I think…
-Corrine Ext. 5194
Totally agree
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My opinion is that 90% of the time in relationships chronic cheaters will continue to cheat without remorse by definition, a chronic cheater would be someone who cheated upwards of three times during the relationship. Men and Women alike have the ability to change and become faithful in relationships if they’re emotionally investing themselves enough. Bottom-line, partners will continue to cheat until they feel remorse and guilt for cheating in the first place. If your partner will never feel remorse then they will continue to cheat. In my experiences personally and professionally, if you show your partner how devastated you are and how you’ll never be the same in a sense you could say “emotionally scarred” then usually they change their actions and stop cheating. However, if your partner doesn’t realize they made a mistake and keep living in the relationship as if nothing happened things will continue to be the same and nothing will change. Counseling helps the process, but nothing will ever “be the same” between you and your partner unless your working together to resolve the issues at hand. Motivations are different for everyone, some cheat because they’ve been cheated on, some because they’re searching for something better. The motivation behind the act isn’t important, I feel, the most important action would be showing your partner how devastated you are, show them your not going to take it and your out of the relationship for good. If they change it was meant to be and you’ll live together after you work out the issues happily. If they walk away like the relationship didn’t matter and show no remorse or guilt, you probably have a “serial cheater” on your hands and you’ll be better off healing. A person isn’t going to change unless they change themselves and have that strong drive and motivation. Some will realize their actions others won’t until it’s too late.
-Corrine Ext. 5194
I would really like to believe that people can change – if you love the person enough you will. But it’s been my experience that if a person cheats on you once, they’re bound to do it again. There was something either in the relationship on in the person himself (or herself) to make her cheat in the first place. Unless that is fixed, then the person will go on cheating.
Enough is enough is different for each individual. Has the behavior of another caused us to lose self-esteem-not just for a day or two, but a long-term loss of self-esteem? Is the individual receiving any emotional support or love from their partner? Has the partner shown any efforts to change behavior that is damaging to the relationship or acknowledged that there is problem behavior occuring? These are the parameters for each individual to decide when enough is enough.
After 39 years of working with people as a professional psychic, I must say I do not believe cheaters change. I would agree that there may be a small percentage of people who have cheated once or twice over a long marriage or relationship who may be able to change their behavior, but a serial cheater…..sad to say, but I don’t see change for a serial cheater.
It does seem that people in powerful positions are vulnerable to becoming “seduced by the power” which may lead to destructive behavior of various types, including serial cheating.
Whether it is better to stay or to go once again is a very individual decision. If long-term damage is occuring to one’s self-worth or causing sustained depression, it’s definitely better to go. My personal belief is that it is better to go and, in time, find a relationship where one is loved and cherished.
Maryanne
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