By Eric J. Leech

While there are not many rock stars your average level-headed person would seriously want to become involved with, fantasies of a one night stand with them are quite common, and for good reason. Fabled “rock star” sex gets its name for being wild, confident, exciting, dangerous, mysterious, and uninhibited. But do you actually need the rock star to experience these feelings? Heck no. Here are seven ways to make your own rock star sex stories, without the rock star.

1. Exciting Places, Exciting Sex
Sometimes just getting away from the bedroom can make all the difference. Think, the kitchen table, bathtub, staircase, or the front or backseat of your car (one of Scarlet Johansson’s favorite places). One thing about rock stars, is they make the most of wherever they are when it comes to sex. Sometimes there’s no better way to say, I love you, than experiencing something new with your partner. Just make sure you won’t get arrested in the process! Heidi Klum, and husband, Seal, prefer to have sex anywhere and anytime they can be alone (closet, attic, etc.). They have kids, so their playtime is a little more like hide-and-go-seek.

2. Anytime Can Be a Good Time for Sex
One of the most common mistakes couples make, is falling into the same pattern of sex. This means usually at the same time, in the same place, and involves the same old tricks. How about mixing things up and reintroducing the “quickie”. While planned, love making has its place, there is something exciting about just letting the moment strike you, and taking your partner on the spot. Carmen Electra tells Cosmopolitan magazine that she likes to be prepared for anytime sex with a kit she keeps in her vehicle/work, including heels, lip gloss, and perfume.

3. Dress the Part
Men are visual animals, and one thing that gets their fire burning is a visual display of sex. Most men love a women dressed in burlesque attire. This includes sexy stockings, lingerie, high heels, and anything else you can think of to get your partners engine started. Dita Von Teese, ex-wife to Marilyn Manson, swears by the power of the right garter belt and stockings.

4. Play the Part
How many rock stars have gone out with a stripper? Probably, nearly all of them. Why? Because there is something sexy about they way they taunt and tease. Enjoying in the occasional striptease should not be forbidden in a healthy relationship. In fact, it can be a very intimate experience for a couple to engage in mutual striptease for each other. If your not sure how your partner will react, take a chance and show a side they may have never seen before. They just might like it!

5. Role Play
Mel B. (a.k.a. Scary Spice) recommends taking it a bit further in the bedroom and incorporating whips (and rope) to keep things spiced (pun intended) up. You may not be a rock star, but there’s nothing that says you can’t play like one.

6. Make a Video, Without the Tape
The most exciting part of making a video (or taking sex pictures), is that feeling you are being watched. The problem with this type of sex play is if one of these tapes or photos gets into the wrong hands. The answer is simply to use a camera, and stream it live on your television for your viewing pleasure. This offers the same excitement, without the regret later. Another way to gain this effect is to use mirrors hung around the bed (ceiling, headboard, etc). Heather Locklear is a bonafied mirror junkie when it comes to sex.

7. Spend the Day Naked
Christina Aguilera has told Cosmopolitan magazine she likes to have “Naked Sundays” with husband, Jordan Bratman, to keep their relationship heated. If ever you find yourself in a sexual rut with your partner, try spending the entire day with them, nude. It will be hard to keep your hands off each other. Just remember to close the windows and send the kids off to grandma and grandpa’s!

The advice above is a good way to break through difficult barriers that occasionally build-up around a stagnate relationship, but they should not be used in substitution of a true spiritual sexual relationship. Your best sex will ultimately have less to do with novelty, gadgets, positions, technique, and herbal concoction, and more with the connection to your partner.

Recent research by The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, has unveiled sex secrets of couples who have maintained great sex for over a quarter of a century. Their success involved enterprising on the moment, synchronizing with each others life energies, engaging in extra-ordinary communication, surrendering vulnerability and inhibition, and taking the occasional risk.

Sex can become an extension of a couples love and adoration for each other, but they must first surrender themselves to the experience! It is unfortunate that due to the inhibition we often grow up with, this is sometimes more easily said than done. That is why a little bit of rock star in all of our lives can never be wrong.