What Turns Women Off

August 9, 2010 at 5:00 am

Gentlemen, fifty first dates won’t get you anywhere but exhausted if you haven’t a clue what turns women off, and I’m going to give you some serious clues. You mean well, of course, but sometimes you can’t see beyond the end of your charming nose. We aren’t all looking for a babe like Johnny Depp or a guy schlepping around a sack full of cash.

A smidge of polish and a mellow approach gets any guy further than loud guffaws and show-offy stunts. Even if your sartorial elegance isn’t GQ sophisticated, do your jeans fit like they were made for you? Do all your shirts advertise your favorite brewsky? Do you know why finger tip caresses trump slap and tickle?

What Women Want

Here then, is how to handle a woman. Start on the right note – and build to a symphony. Want to approach a cool woman in a pub or coffee bar? She’s probably open to meeting new people, but respect her space and boundaries… Toss a sugar packet in front of her and declare, “Hey, baby, this must be your name tag,” and you’ll be rewarded with rolled eyes and a cold shoulder.

Opening lines are tough. Women are turned off by crude humor or corny movie quotes. Be you. Ask about the best coffee she ever drank or notice the magazine she’s carrying – demonstrate that you’re well-read too.

Even when a relationship is maturing, women have expectations. Facial hair might enhance your looks, but wild nose and ear hair or the classic unibrow can’t stoke anyone’s romantic fires. Cozy up to a clipper before you cozy up to your woman.

Knowing her man is comfortable makes a woman feel terrific. But comfy isn’t sloppy. Make an effort with impeccably clean attire – clothes that suit your body and the occasion. Nothing smells nicer than cuddling up to a guy in freshly-laundered gear.

Lose the heavy aftershave or cologne, opting for scented soap, manly shampoo, and a light touch of coordinating cologne as a finish. Women are sensual beings. Overpower her with cheap chemical odors and she’ll disappear like a chunk of ice on a barbeque grill.

Women adore love and romance, so good sex is like a diamond bracelet in shiny red wrappings. But less is more, and taking time to attend is the biggest turn on. Silky caresses send shivers to most interesting body places. Kiss her like you’re savoring fine wine. Pay attention to all her erotic zones – meaning all of her. Even sexy rough play requires sultry finesse. Thrust your tongue down her throat, administer a tweak here or grab there, and she’ll respond with as much fire as a snuffed candle.

Your best bet? Listen to your lady. Watch her reactions. Care about what she likes, and you’ll have more than a clue.

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  2. Darlene March 1, 2012 at 11:50 am

    Treat your loved one as a valid human being…not a need for what they can do for you. This goes for both sexes. Be thankful for the small things each can provide. The big moments stem from that. Be a lady when nobody is watching. Be a gentleman when nobody is watching. Make it a habit. Share, and recognize when you are not being fair.


  3. Settlefl November 19, 2011 at 11:48 pm

    I have been married 45 years and this is still true with my bride. thanks for the article. Men should take note when given the truth what women like and do not like. The last thing I will say is women love to be respected and not smothered they need thier space like men do.

    Thanks.


  4. Frances Faye Adams November 19, 2011 at 9:05 pm

    How refreshing to hear advice given to men as to how to please a woman. There are volumes of advice given to women on how to treat/please a man!


  5. Constance November 19, 2011 at 3:09 pm

    One big turn off, period, is..when a guy constantly plays himself off to be the hero in what ever scenario he comes up with! Always the best at everything, even if You come up with the setting, he can always remember a time when he was in that same situation, and of course, HE again, was the best, the smartest, the most intelligent! Oh, and by the way, if a guy always has to tell you how INTELLIGENT he is, he probably isn’t! A truly intelligent person recognizes another persons self-worth and is comfortable enough with them and him(her)self to allow the other person to just BE!


  6. David Morgan November 19, 2011 at 12:50 pm

    This was “good advice” to men which I can say as a man. If a woman feels a man has made a faux pas verbally or in his clothes, she should “correct him” with respect. Man need to feel “respected” by a woman (and I’m sure the opposite is true but I’m talking as a “man” here). If he doesn’t react accordingly in the near future then no “real” relationship is probably possible between them.


  7. ~Candice~ November 19, 2011 at 12:46 pm

    THANKS FOR THE F.Y.Y ON BODY SCENTS,..or ODORS as the case may be. MEN PLEASE WEAR DEODORANT AND BRUSH YOUR TONGUE AS WELL AS YOU TEETH! Nothing is more of a turn OFF than to be in smelling distance of any man who STINKS! Basic cleanliness is a MUST! An aroma of strength,..perhaps a little musky is much more pleasing to the sensitive nose and sensuous nature of a WOMAN!


  8. NICHLO P.VARGHESE November 19, 2011 at 2:48 am

    true information,may useful to others………

  9. velvetoversteel
    velvetoversteel August 9, 2010 at 12:56 pm

    It’s a hugh red flag that a guy has some self-esteem or ego issues when they always tell you what they spend and how much CASH is in their wallet. Met more than a few men like this and I can see the red flags quickly. :-)

    Great article, Taryn! Thanks for sharing!

    Hugs,
    Coreen


  10. pa75 August 9, 2010 at 10:21 am

    I really enjoyed this article, Taryn! Some men don’t understand that a big ego can be such a turn-off. My cousin and I were comparing our ex-husbands, and they both thought that a tweak here or grab there should be fun, never listened when told it wasn’t. Crude sexual language is a big turn-off, also. Thanks for giving the guys a little advice!

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