Making Sure the Direction You’re Heading is Your Personal Best
Callers often ask me if they are on the right path. It’s a popular question, as the coming of a New Year gives a person reason for introspection. It’s one of the more simple questions that is put to me. The answer is almost always “Yes.”
Wait a second, how can this be? Certainly a question concerning a person’s life path should have a complicated answer, an answer that could only be provided by channeling three Aztec gods and Elvis, an answer that could only be fully grasped by someone with a Ph.D. in Complex-ology, an answer that, once understood, would clear away all the muck of life and direct us with clear vision until the end of our days in this mortal realm.
Well, as an Aztec god once told me, “That’s hogwash.”
Since I am a true believer in simplicity, I’ll explain this by boiling it down to its simplest terms. When people ask“Am I on the right path in life?” they’re basically asking, “Am I doing what I was meant to do? Am I where I am supposed to be in life?” The first step in answering that is to understand “what” it is that you’re meant to do and “where” it is that you are meant to do it. If we define the “what” and the “where,” then it’s easy to tell if you “are.”
The existential question of why we are here has been argued since folks had the ability to argue, and I’m not trying to open that can of worms here, but I believe that we’re here to fulfill our potential, that is, to learn and grow, and our choices will put us in just the right place to do that. Simply put, the “what” is to learn, and the “where” is right where you are now.
You probably aren’t completely opposed to the idea of change, or you wouldn’t be reading this. So you can learn, and you’ve created your own classroom already. Imagine yourself in these circumstances and you’ll see what I mean.
1. You’re unhappy with your job because your father insisted that you become a lawyer when you really wanted to be an electrician. Believe it or not, you’re doing exactly what you should be doing right now. You’re on the right path. You’re a lawyer because you haven’t yet put enough faith in your own dreams. This path can teach you to embrace your own desires and live life in your own way, on your own terms. You created this opportunity to learn to be your own authentic self because you didn’t know how in the beginning.
2. You’re unhappy because you love your lover more than your spouse. You’re on the right path. You’re not with the person you love because you haven’t yet learned to say goodbye and fully embrace change. Perhaps you place too high a value on the material things you might lose in a divorce. Perhaps you think that church / parents / kids will be disappointed in you if you leave. This path can teach you to say goodbye, let go, and value your own opinion of yourself. You created this opportunity to grow because you didn’t come into this world already knowing how to do these things.
3. You’re in an abusive relationship. You’re on the right path. (Let me make it clear on this one, abuse is never right and the victims are not to blame for the abuse. My point is that since the abuser is not likely to change, the victim must.) You’re there because you have no idea how strong, amazing, powerful, and capable you are. You have no idea how much you are worth. Maybe you believe that you deserve what’s happening, or maybe you believe that you can’t support yourself financially. Maybe you fear violence if you leave. This may have come about because you didn’t know how to recognize a dangerous person before getting involved with him or her, how to stand up for yourself, how to utilize the court system or community resources, how ask for help, or how to get protection. Get help. Do it now. Bullies can be defeated and you might be amazed at how fast you can learn how to do it.
4. You feel disconnected from the spiritual. You’re on the right path. You feel disconnected because you haven’t yet found what connects you. Maybe you doubt your abilities. Maybe you need to break free from the religion of your parents. Maybe you think you don’t deserve the personal attention of Spirit / God / the Universe. Again, your choices have created for you the perfect learning experience.
Are you on the right path? Yes… almost always, yes. You are where you are for a reason, your very own personally crafted, perfectly crafted, reason.
If you’re not sure what the lesson in your situation is, or what you can do to change it, that’s where your psychic comes in. When you are ready for the answer, just ask – and you may find yourself growing beyond anything you ever dreamed.