7 Things Men Look for In Their Future Wife

February 1, 2011 at 11:00 am

What do men look for in a wife? There are important characteristics guys watch for when trying to settle down: independence, support, stimulation and more! Men have a reputation for being simple creatures – mainly because they simplify where women tend to analyze. However, they’re no dummies when it comes to looking for the right woman. Call it the Boy Scout in them, but when they finally decide to pack their gear and forage for a suitable mate, you’d better believe that they’re testing out all the campers they have access to before choosing their partner. Men may date all types of women, but when it comes to taking the big plunge, they are definitely more discretionary. Here are a few critical traits that men look for in the women they intend to make their partner for life. Call a psychic today to find out when you’ll meet Mr. Right.

1. Independence

Joining your life with another human being offers an abundance of challenges, not the least of which is becoming one half of a couple while still maintaining your own separate identity. It’s a delicate balance, and both partners must be individually secure in themselves prior to joining their lives together. If a woman loses her selfhood to a man, giving up her own interests and personality to match his, he will inevitably lose respect for her. In similar fashion, if a woman never permits her mate the freedom to do things on his own or with others outside of the relationship, he will feel suffocated and trapped. A man looks for a woman with whom he can spend quality time, and who will appreciate their time apart and the pursuit of their individual interests.

2. Support

It is imperative that a man feels that his woman supports his choices and his achievements. A man’s ego can be fragile at times, meaning that he will need your reassurance and advocacy regarding certain decisions and beliefs. This is not to say that you must see eye-to-eye on everything, but that where his core beliefs and ego are concerned, you will be an ally. Men want strength in a woman – life is hard and he’ll need to know that you are up to the challenge of standing to-to-toe with him when things get tough. Not all events in life are pretty as roses, and if he feels that he will have to care for you and himself, he won’t ever see you as a viable long-term partner.

3. Stimulation

Whether it’s in an intellectual arena, at the gym, or in the bedroom, he wants a woman who keeps things interesting, challenges him, and even surprises him sometimes. Living with the same person for many years can easily dull the edges of the relationship, but if you sustain a freshness and sense of discovery within the partnership, you two can enjoy a happy and monogamous relationship for many years to come.

4. Comfortability

Men look for women who allow them to be themselves. We may play many roles throughout the day – at work and in society – but when a man comes home, he needs to feel that he can be himself and that you’ll still love and accept him, smelly feet and all.

5. Self-Confidence

Love yourself before anyone else. This is a popular mantra of the twenty-first century, and is closely affiliated with self-confidence. If you truly love yourself, you will treat others better, will carry yourself proudly, speak more eloquently, and generally appear more attractive to men. Self-confident people seem more in control, and more capable in life, which is a highly attractive quality to a man searching for a mate.

6. Inspiration

Men look for women who inspire them to be the best that they can be. If he feels like a better person when he’s around you, he’ll look to snag you indefinitely, thus ensuring his positive evolution. A man wants a woman who enhances his life, perhaps by introducing him to new experiences or ways of thinking, or who challenge him to achieve greater things.

7. Honesty

He must feel like he can trust you and that you will always be honest with him, no matter how difficult the situation. If he feels that you can and do lie to him, even about little things, he will never open his heart fully to you, and will ultimately look elsewhere for the woman he can trust implicitly.

These important characteristics are exactly what a man looks for in a wife. Maybe there’s something you can do to more readily fit that role.

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  1. Jenny77 August 30, 2011 at 11:03 pm

    “Inspiring” him can be misinterpreted by men as you trying to change him. I think this calls for some discernment.


  2. Kathy April 29, 2011 at 7:07 pm

    To me, this all be summed up by saying that the woman should be a WOMAN, not a girl, not a servant/slave, etc. Much of what I believe and how I have always behaved has come crashing down with my 2nd divorce, because I did not know what it is to be a woman. I am NOW learning, (at age 53) and it’s not easy. Independence and trust will be hard for me because I was out of the house when my husband left. Comfortability? …but I don’t want a TV in the bedroom! I would rather be his entertainment and his comfort. And I wouldn’t mind a hint. How does a woman “inspire” a man to be his better self? — I want to become the best WOMAN I can be.


  3. maryjoy February 4, 2011 at 1:39 am

    all points are good, its even breat but i have one concern,.,
    what if there is one of the seven things stated which is lacking to that person (women), would it be reasonable that men would then give up the relationship for that reason????

    the thing i like most is SUPPORT. yes its true that it would be better if you will support the guy you really loved because this will also show and let the guy be informed that he is loved by you.,

    god bless!!!


  4. cubes February 3, 2011 at 10:24 am

    Hey Lisa! I’m can’t see the Customer Roundtable either. :(

    Hope all is well!

    Hello Gina Rose!

    Cubes :D

  5. lisa
    lisa February 3, 2011 at 4:41 am

    Hi GinaRose,

    I’ve had a couple of men tell me that it took them a while to ask me out b/c they were intimidated. I was really surprised by their comments- Me, intimidating??!! I’m sure it was probably my guard up and the walls I put around me. Learning to let all that go….

    What happenened to our cyber kitchen table??

    Miss you all,
    Lisa

  6. Gina Rose ext.9500
    Gina Rose ext.9500 February 2, 2011 at 10:01 am

    Hi Frances,
    It is NOW, because of your independence, that you can enjoy life. And , NOW, that you are enjoying your life, you will slowly start to attract the right type of men, and people in general, to you.

    Try not to stereotype all men in general because of bad past experiences, be open, and judge them on their individual qualities as human beings. I say this, because as I type this reply to you, my Guides are showing me that you will attract a nice man to you.

    Blessed Be )O(
    Gina Rose ext.9500


  7. frances February 2, 2011 at 8:38 am

    I can agree somewhat…but I tried everything , I kept my indepenence as well.. I am sorry, with a lot of men no matter what , they are not fair about their free time and yours…after 25 years , I walked me and my independence right out the door. I now enjoy my life thank you. Oh I also didnt care about the smelly socks.


  8. tray February 2, 2011 at 6:51 am

    All good points but I would add one:

    “8. Loyalty”. No other points or attributes matter much without loyalty. It’s a vital cohesive. A subset of loyalty is, of course, “fidelity”. Most men prefer women who can keep their pants on around others.

  9. Gina Rose ext.9500
    Gina Rose ext.9500 February 1, 2011 at 3:51 pm

    Good points !!!!

    Especially the point about independence…which goes hand in hand with self-confidence.

    Blessed Be )O(
    Gina Rose ext.9500

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