Learning to Spot the Warning Signs
Sometimes when a relationship ends, you think to yourself “If only I had known earlier…” It’s possible that clues to troublesome issues might have presented themselves early in the relationship, but you did not recognize them. Or you might have denied their existence. Learning how to identify red flag warnings in the beginning of a relationship—and acting on them quickly—will help prevent pain later on.
He Doesn’t Come Pick You Up for Dates
If the new man in your life asks to meet you somewhere rather than come to pick you up for a date, there could be a problem. It’s possible that he doesn’t own a car. Or he might be married and doesn’t want to be tracked. Other possibilities are that he is plain lazy, expects others to cater to his needs, or doesn’t like being inconvenienced. You might never know the real reason, because if he is hiding something that he thinks you won’t like, he will lie. So if he refuses to come pick you up, do not go out with him until he agrees to do so. If you never see him again, you are better off that way.
Your Love Interest Is Not Available on Weekends
If the man or woman you are head-over-heels for can only see you on weekdays, there is a possibility that he or she is married or is otherwise leading a separate life that he or she is trying to hide from you, such as spending time with children from a previous relationship. Insist on getting together on weekends. If it doesn’t happen, then move on.
Too Much Intimacy Too Soon
If your new love interest is eager to tell you his or her entire life story, including details about therapy sessions, past relationships, money issues, or deep secrets, then question why this person has such a strong need to develop an instant bond. People who want to be your best friend or “soul mate” just hours after meeting you might be extremely lonely or could be trying to manipulate you. Instant intimacy is inappropriate behavior for people who are still only acquaintances. Politely ask to keep things light; do not feel pressured to reveal any personal information that makes you feel uncomfortable. If your crush is ready for a healthy relationship, then he or she will understand that developing a friendship and romance takes time to unfold. If not, end this relationship quickly.
“Real trust takes real time.” – Reed ext. 5105
Your Crush Keeps Referring to a Friend or Roommate
If you are hearing about your date’s “friend” or “roommate” on a regular basis, but you are never told that person’s name or invited to meet him or her, then there is a good chance that the person you are falling in love with has a live-in lover. This person is not emotionally available for you, so move on as soon as possible.
If your new love interest’s sense of humor is sarcastic, proceed with caution. Sarcasm is actually anger being released in little spurts. Sarcastic people might view themselves as being clever, but they are probably carrying a lot of emotional baggage that will be dumped on you eventually if you become intimately involved. A sarcastic partner is likely to criticize you and will be hard to please no matter what you do or say. For a better relationship, spend time instead with someone cracking corny jokes.
Sometimes when we are attracted to a dynamic person, we lose our usual good judgment. And our friends are not always the best advisors, because they might only say what they think we want to hear—which is not always the truth. If you are not sure if an issue is warning you of possible danger, call one of our experienced psychics to help you see things clearly.
“Honesty is an important component in any relationship.” – Giovanna ext. 5214