If the Trust is Broken, Fix it
Trust is a two-way street, serving as the true foundation of every relationship. If one of you has broken that trust, realize that the two of you have your work cut out for you, but if you are willing to make the effort, the rewards are well worth the journey.
The Right Attitude
You can’t begin to rebuild trust if you are not willing to admit fault and be humble and respectful to your partner. This means no self-righteousness, and no casual attitude. You must start regrowth from a place of open mindedness without the intrusion of egos, placing the integrity of the relationship before your own pride or selfishness. Need some help processing what happened? Give Greta ext. 5657 a call to uncover their motives.
Talking Through the Why and How
The only way to move past an incident is to openly talk about it. Communicate to your partner why things went wrong so you can begin the journey towards fixing it. Give yourself time to explain how their actions affected you as well as how you felt, thought and reacted to the situation. Through honesty and open communication, you can achieve mutual understanding and begin planning a constructive game plan for redeveloping the relationship in a healthy way.
“You need to trust the strong feelings for they are your guide.” – Lalita ext. 5408
Giving up Privacy
In order to rebuild trust, you must be willing to prove to your partner that you are indeed worthy of their trust. This means becoming an open book, sharing with them your every move if necessary: texts, emails, appointments, etc. Realize that while this may seem extremely imposing, somewhere along the line you used your personal privacy to break that trust with your partner. You now need to prove to them that you are willing to be an open book and live your life faithfully.
Developing Ground Rules
Moving past the indiscretion means agreeing to certain ground rules to reestablish a solid, positive foundation. Rule one, of course, would be to never repeat the indiscretion. Beyond that, establish whatever parameters you both need to feel safe enough to explore your newly evolving, healthy relationship. Another valuable ground rule may be in agreeing not to use the infidelity against your partner in future situations and arguments. If you both truly want to move past the issue, you need to work on putting it to rest, not rehashing it to use as ammunition during the next disagreement. Are you having trouble moving past the issue? Talk with Tabitha ext. 5717 and find the path back to your loving, trusting relationship.