Avoid These First Date Questions!
When it comes to first date etiquette, there are just some things you don’t talk about. We can probably all agree that you shouldn’t talk about your exes, propose marriage or ask to have sex (unless that’s all you’re looking for) on a first date. And there may be some questions you’re asking with the best intentions, that aren’t actually working in your favor. Here are the five worst questions to ask on a first date.
Why Are You Still Single?
I remember being asked this question and it was meant to be a compliment, but the truth is it really isn’t. What you’re really asking when you ask this question is, “What’s wrong with you?” There are many reasons why people choose (or don’t choose) to be single. Just remember that everyone has their own unique set of values and deal breakers, so don’t bother trying to figure someone out on a first date.
What Are Your Looking for In a Relationship?
This is a loaded question and most people ask it because they don’t want to waste time dating someone they aren’t compatible with. But most people have wants and needs that change over time. And while some things seem important right now, life is unpredictable and people aren’t necessarily going to stay the course if what they originally wanted isn’t what’s actually best for them.
How Do I Look?
You’ve spent a lot of time getting ready for this date and you want to make a good impression, but this question suggests you are looking for approval and you lack confidence. A sincere compliment is more valuable than a compliment that was forced out of someone just because it’s expected. Just dress in a way that makes you feel good about yourself. You don’t need anyone else to tell you that you look good.
Should We Split the Bill?
There is a lot of debate about who should cover the bill on a first date. Some people feel the man should always pay, while others feel that the person who did the asking should cover the bill. Instead, act on your principles and then compromise if you need to. If you usually cover the expenses, cover the bill for this date, but be open to splitting if your date insists. Don’t make this moment any more noteworthy or complicated than it needs to be.
How Am I Doing?
It may seem like a good idea to check in with your date while the date is happening to see how they are feeling about you. But, it’s actually a bad idea. Some people may be able to size up their date within the first few minutes of meeting them, but really, it’s better if you allow someone the time to take it all in, reflect, and then decide if they want to see you again. Even if you were blowing it during the first half of the date, you might share a moment towards the end that recreates interest. Give them time to assess and don’t make them feel rushed.
Here’s to a great first date!