Jude Asher

Are Your Habits Healthy?

June 25, 2010 at 1:00 pm
By Jude Asher

With summer here, it’s the perfect time to take some inventory and get rid of all those unhealthy habits, and make room for some new healthy ones. Bad habits are detrimental to both your physical and mental well being, as well as getting in the way of achieving your goals. Below are some questions for you to ask yourself so that you can make positive change in your life and purge those bad habits.

Are you a workaholic? This is common habit for someone that is trying to fill their time and avoid fixing problems in their life or taking responsibility for themselves. This could mean you need to focus more on spending time with others and doing activities that make you happy.
Do you get enough sleep? If you find yourself feeling fatigued and tired throughout your days, perhaps making sure you get the proper amount of sleep will remedy this. And maybe even help you cut down your coffee intake, which will help your physical health. Read the rest of this entry »

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Master Your Path

June 15, 2010 at 11:11 am
By Jude Asher

I like to believe that we’re masters of our own destiny, ultimately responsible for every decision we make in life. I don’t think there’s really such a thing as a victim, or that our stories are pre-determined. What it comes down to is that there are two types of people: those who wait for their “future” to happen to them, and those who make their “future” happen for them.

Our upbringings affect our decision making skills and shape who we are, but at the same time, it’s our decisions that dictate how we live and where we end up. Life is truly a huge web of decisions and opportunities. People that allow their past and upbringing to dictate their life are people who are always waiting around for things to happen to them, and who end up missing opportunity after opportunity. People that go out and make their own outcomes are dynamic, constantly changing and adapting to a growing society. While one could argue that this is due to a strong upbringing, it is also due to a choice – the choice to not settle for anything less than fulfilling their goals and being happy. Read the rest of this entry »

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Anatomy of the Male Brain

April 17, 2010 at 2:01 pm
By Jude Asher

I stumbled upon an article written about psychologist Louann Brizendine’s book The Male Brain. Normally I chuckle at this kind of stuff, I like to believe that everything in life comes down to perspective and which pair of glasses you put on in any given situation.

Yes, males have wandering eyes, I won’t deny that, but we are simply admiring beauty. Furthermore, as humans, when something catches your eye, naturally you are going to look at it. Not only does it make us males normal, it’s also a normal thing women do, they are just better at being incognito about it!

I think the issue with Louann Brizendine’s work is that they rely on what books say and “scientific facts” rather than some good old fashioned life experience. People are quite dynamic, some more than others, but nevertheless will surprise you and will debunk stereotypes. So trying to describe male and female brains using percentages and unproven theories only confuses people more and misleads a vulnerable reader. Read the rest of this entry »

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5 Tips to Survive the Waiting Game

March 26, 2010 at 12:10 pm
By Jude Asher, Sophia Maisie

You just spoke to your favorite psychic … and the outcome is going to take a bit longer to manifest than you had desired. So what do you do when you’re stuck in relationship limbo? Try these 5 tips to survive the waiting game.

1. Turn off the technology. Seriously. No texting, no Facebook stalking, no calling every five minutes. Why? It’s never a good idea to push someone when they’re not ready, if they need space let them have space. If you spend all your time monitoring their Facebook, you’ll cause yourself unnecessary stress. Have faith that if they are meant to come back to you, they will.

2. Reconnect with you. When you begin dating someone new, or even start a relationship, your world gradually begins to revolve around your paramour. That’s ok and normal, but when the relationship hits the breaks, oftentimes you’re left wondering what life was like before them. Instead of trying to run from dealing with things and find a rebound love, spend time with yourself. Do things you didn’t have time for when in a relationship. Try something new or travel somewhere you’ve always wanted to.

3. Get back to your friendships. Typically, when we are involved in a relationship we have less time to maintain our friendships and often drift from people in our lives. Read the rest of this entry »

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You’ve Been Dumped

March 23, 2010 at 1:23 pm
By Jude Asher

As if there aren’t enough articles on breakup recovery out there, I’ve decided to state the obvious and most overlooked advice we should give ourselves when we are dumped. (Side note: Yes, our friends give good advice… but it’s often at the expense of the truth. Read below and take a good look at yourself in the mirror.)

The first step is simply being honest with yourself. Allow yourself to feel blue and accept that all of the bad icky feelings… are exactly what you should be feeling. You should be happy that you are feeling this as you are no longer in shock or denial — you are taking the first step down a lengthy road that twists and turns, and holds many obstacles. However, you must find the healthy balance between healthy sorrow and also not disappearing from society and your life. Look at it more as a little vacation from a life that wasn’t working out so well, whether you wanted to believe it or not.

Here’s a little secret that can sometimes speed up the recovery process and help you forgo a lot of unnecessary negative thoughts. You ready? Here it is: Assume responsibility for yourself and your part in why the relationship didn’t work. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Well, if it was so simple, you wouldn’t be here reading this and pondering, “Why didn’t I do this in the first place?!” Read the rest of this entry »

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Busting Dating Myths

March 22, 2010 at 1:18 pm
By Jude Asher

As someone who roots for the bad guys in films and loves to go against the grain, I would argue that the rules for first meeting a potential mate are all a big myth. From how many days should go by before calling, beating yourself up over a comment you made, or wondering how soon you should sleep with them, these myths can cause a lot of unnecessary stress. The bottom line is: just being yourself and doing what you feel in your gut can keep you out of trouble and is a great start to a relationship.

Having to wait a certain amount of time before calling is a big myth and rather silly if you think about it because it all comes down to a game of “what is the other person thinking?!” If you have a great time and want to see the person again, don’t play games, and give them a ring to invite them out somewhere. I’m not saying to stalk or be the weird person that calls everyday, but there’s nothing wrong with not waiting the normal 2-3 day waiting period to call someone. It also sets you apart from everyone else by not playing games and just being “real.”

We all get nervous on a date and are always trying to figure out what our date is thinking. We get weary of what we are saying and how we are behaving. Afterall, first impressions are very important, but you don’t want to give the impression that you are going out of your way to try too hard to be perfect. Be yourself, it’s your little quirks and mishaps that make you who you are and those are the things a date will find endearing and unique about you. Keep in mind as well, whatever nervousness you are feeling, there’s a very high likelihood that your date is feeling the same thing as you. Chill out and enjoy the experience. Read the rest of this entry »

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You Have Everything You Need

March 21, 2010 at 12:58 pm
By Jude Asher

If you’re reading this, hit the brakes on your life, get out of the car, and take a deep breath! In a society that picks up pace by the second, people have become disillusioned and have lost track of themselves and what’s important. We have grown to become complainers and default to be emotional victims and the best at making excuses. There is a simple answer as to who’s responsible for your happiness, for your sadness, finding love, getting fired from a job, being prosperous… YOU.

One common denominator of people that can’t find love, keep losing love, or aren’t successful is that they assume no responsibility for their role in it and look to blame someone or something else. Granted we all are dealt different hands in this life, it’s what you do with what you’re given. What people don’t realize is that if you feel you can’t find love or someone to love you, it’s simply because you aren’t opening your eyes.

Generally speaking, people have pre-conceived notions of what love and success are supposed to look like, and expectations of what will make them happy. But the problem with pre-conceived notions is that you end up never seeing what’s in front of your face. Read the rest of this entry »

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Time to Fire Your Friends

March 20, 2010 at 12:44 pm
By Jude Asher

Unlike professional firings where you collect your final paycheck, grab your things and are escorted out by security, firing a friend is more of a lengthy and painful process. Growing up and facing reality makes us realize what’s working in our lives and what’s not. I’m a firm believer that we are only as good as the people we surround ourselves with and every so often it’s necessary to do a spring cleaning of our lives. Letting go can be the hardest thing to do in life, however, it’s the healthiest thing we can learn so we better ourselves and get to the places we want to go.

Currently, I’m in a rather large growth spurt, I’m feeling the natural push to distance myself from certain friends that have been in my life for a long time. They have given me so many great memories and fun times, but I’m realizing they have also been a detriment to me reaching my goals and dreams. It’s important to always check yourself and make sure you have the right people surrounding you. Not to sound harsh, but when people no longer are a benefit to your life, it’s time to detach and let go. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t grab a drink or some food with them from time to time, but things can’t go on as they have been. The main reason for this is no matter how close a friend it is, people can become toxic to you at any given moment without warning because we as people are constantly growing and changing. What we wanted yesterday isn’t the same thing we want today.

Firing friends that are toxic is an essential part of coming of age and growing up. If you take the right perspective on it, you’ll realize that this is also necessary in order to make room for new people to come into your life. People that will inspire you, and you feel you connect with better depending on what point in life you are at. Again, this comes down to detachment and being in touch with yourself and defining what you want out of life. Detachment may seem harsh to some people, but in the end, once you master this process, you’ll find yourself much happier, much healthier, and fulfilled.

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