Red Responds: End Your Affair

November 19, 2011 at 5:00 pm
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Sally from Albuquerque asks:

I have been in an extramarital relationship for six years, and I want to end it. What do I say? He is manipulative, and, as a Leo, will want to fix the situation. Do I owe him an explanation, if he only wants to argue with me about my reasons?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Sally,

Your soon-to-be-ex lover can be quite difficult, but that doesn’t mean you can’t handle it. You just need to prepare yourself to handle things a little differently. Every time you allow him to draw you into a discussion or argument, you are surrendering your power and wobbling in your convictions. This is very problematic, not to mention stressful. Read More

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Red Responds: Why Love Is Not Enough

November 10, 2011 at 5:00 pm
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Love Him As Is or Leave Him?

Aura from San Diego asks:

I’m struggling with whether to stay in a relationship with a childhood friend/teenage sweetheart that I reconnected with a few years ago. His marriage and career ended. He lives where we grew up (the East coast), and I have lived on the West coast for 28 years now. We’ve seen each other, back and forth. He drinks too much beer everyday. He still seems to be recuperating from his past, and he believes I’m it. I love him and I care. However, I’ve been very unhappy with a lot of his behavior in the past two years. It sort of seems like a no brainer to leave. For me, it’s not so easy because of our history. He doesn’t seem to worry about us. Please share any insight you may have. Thanks!

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Aura,

You are very good person. You have to know that. But, you also have to accept that you cannot “save” someone who isn’t looking to better themselves. Even though there is a love bond that shows up between your boyfriend and yourself, sometimes, love just isn’t enough. Read More

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Red Responds: Stop Playing it Safe in Love

November 3, 2011 at 5:00 pm
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Break Away from Repeating Patterns

Belinda from Hamburg asks:

I feel like I’m repeating the same patterns of falling for men that I eventually wind up having to take care of. I’m smart and independent, and I’m tired of taking care of others. I want a man to do the same for me. Yet, when I find men that are capable, I’m not attracted to them. Please help guide me. I’m currently in a relationship with someone I love, but I know is not good for me. What do I do?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Belinda,

Recognizing that you are repeating a pattern is good, but you really need to spend some time thinking about why.

You have met some men who were equals, and a couple who were even a bit superior in some ways, with whom you could have built a deep relationship. But, you’re right—none of those men who have crossed your path inspired much more than a few passing thoughts with you. I’m really not seeing the chemistry, and without that spark—what’s the point really? So, hopefully, it will make you feel better having the validation that you really haven’t passed up any dynamic or remarkable relationship opportunities or experiences, yet. So, let go of those niggling memories and thoughts that sometimes weigh you down a bit, because the key word here, really is “yet.” Read More

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Red Responds: He Doesn’t Love You

October 29, 2011 at 5:00 pm
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I Love You, But Why Don’t You Love Me?

Brenda from Dubai asks:

Why do we find sometimes that we fall in love with someone, but they’re not in love with us? Then we have someone fall in love with us, and we’re not in love with them. It’s so frustrating!

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Brenda,

Love is a strong yet delicate energy, and not necessarily the easiest to navigate! Sometimes, we love those who don’t return the feeling, or vice versa, because of past life connections and sometimes because we or they hold the role of influence or “teacher” in this life. There are also those experiences that are unworkable at a particular moment, because of free will or divine timing.

There really isn’t a single or simple answer to your question, because each experience, and the explanation for it, is always unique to the parties involved. Read More

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Red Responds: Break Up With Your Ex on the Spiritual Level

October 15, 2011 at 5:00 pm
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Lynett from San Francisco, CA asks:

I feel like your post regarding sleeping with your ex is directly related to me. I have been struggling with this for about eight years, and I’m sick of it. I can’t seem to make it go away, or make it work. We keep getting together on the astral plane, and the story is always the same with different details. We’re breaking up. In the physical life, this relationship was over for me thirty years ago. Why does it keep dragging at me on the astral plane?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Many of us have, create or deepen our ties and bonds with the people we meet and connect with during this lifetime. Knowing that some relationships simply aren’t meant to be or in our best interest doesn’t dissipate the energy or the bonds. It would be nice if it did, but more often than not—it just doesn’t work that way. Read More

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Red Responds: Find Patience When You Want Change Now

October 8, 2011 at 5:00 am
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Susan from Jackson, Mississippi asks:

Dear Red, first thank you for your gift and insight to help others. My question is when will I get out of the hateful building where I work? I am applying for other jobs federal, state online and private. The building where I work is a horror. There is no management, and they are not trying. I am so stressed that I am in knots all the time. Do you see me getting something soon, and do I have to move to get there? I have no savings, and the company will have to help if they want me to move? Do you also see me meeting someone at this new job and marry and moving to a new state? I would like to get to Tennessee. Thanks for all you do and God bless. 

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Susan,

I want to encourage you to keep searching for that next opportunity, because you’ll have to in order to bring it about. However, as much as I hate to say this, I want you to be prepared for things to move slowly. Psychic timing is always tough, and hopefully I am wrong, but I’m not seeing you starting a new job until next spring. Please don’t let that discourage you. Becoming disheartened won’t make anything any easier, and isn’t likely to speed things up, either. So, stay as positive as you can, and keep the energy and momentum flowing by following every avenue that can lead you to the job and life you deserve. You aren’t doing anything wrong, but you are at the mercy of a victimized economy. Universally, there’s a lot of stagnation going on when it comes to jobs and careers, and you are not presenting as being exempt. So, even though it feels very personal, do your best to keep in mind that it’s not! Read More

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Red Responds: Break Free from a Cheating Partner

October 1, 2011 at 5:00 am
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Find Hope in Your New Found Freedom

Nina from Baltimore asks:

Dear Red, I found out that my husband has had sexual relations. He feels this is not really cheating, because it was only oral sex and he was the receiver. I have three beautiful children, and this has happened before. I am afraid to leave him; he is the provider of the family. I feel guilty that my children will think I am the one who separated our family, and I don’t want them to resent me for having to relocate them.

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Nina,

It is very unfortunate that you are in the position you are in. There really is no easy way to make things right, because there are layers upon layers of issues that surround you and your family. Read More

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Red Responds: Why Are You Still Attracted to Your Ex?

September 24, 2011 at 5:00 am
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Becky from Garlands asks:

Why am I still so attracted to my ex-husband?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Becky,

It doesn’t always make sense when you try and break down why you’re attracted to someone, and trying to understand it certainly doesn’t make it any easier to purge yourself of thoughts and feelings toward someone you ultimate accept as being part of your past.

A large chunk of the attraction toward your ex that you struggle with has to do with the karmic bonds that still show up between the two of you. Even though there is still unfinished business there, it doesn’t appear as if this is the lifetime in which the two of you will balance the scales and wipe the slate clean. Read More

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