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Red Responds: Get Married or Break Up?

January 22, 2012 at 12:00 am
By Psychic Red ext. 9226

Either Commit or Move On

Mary from Colorado Springs, Colorado asks:

I am in a relationship with a man for seven years. I enjoy him as a person, and he is a wonderful man. But I seem to have a hesitation towards marrying him, and I seem to find myself distracted by other men who I end up finding are not as supportive and easy to communicate with as my current boyfriend. He keeps waiting for me and putting up with more crap that I think anyone should handle. I just wish I could move in one direction. Either commit or move on. Do I have an issue with relationships or is this not the right one for me?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Mary,

There are many wonderful qualities about your boyfriend, and he would be a safe choice for marriage. That seems to be a big part of your internal struggle—you really don’t want to marry for safety. You want excitement. You want a bit of “bad boy” in a good man. You want someone who will challenge you as a person, and your current boyfriend really doesn’t. To be bluntly honest, you don’t have the depth of respect for him as a person that you require of yourself for a husband or life-mate. Unless you choose to create a different outcome, I really don’t see you marrying this man. Read the rest of this entry »

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Red Responds: Stop an Unwanted Infatuation

January 15, 2012 at 12:00 am
By Psychic Red ext. 9226

If They Don’t Have Sex, Are They Still Cheating?

Bonnie from Brighton asks:

Two years ago, I discovered that my husband of 24 years was involved in an infatuation with a younger woman. He had just turned 60, and I was 63. Daily for three months, they texted and spoke on the phone. He said they never had sex and met only one time for coffee, but I know he visited her briefly at her place of employment. Desperately, I want to believe that this was the one and only time he was unfaithful to me. We have rebuilt our relationship, and both made necessary changes. I’ve been happy for the last nine months with him. However, I saw a psychic when I was in Florida. She confirmed that he did not have a sexual relationship with her; that it was simply an old man’s infatuation with a younger woman. However, when I asked if it would happen again, she said yes it would. When she said it would be the same… an emotional affair without sex. She said I could change it. So my question is: is it truly over with this younger woman, and what can I do to prevent this from ever happening again. Am I wasting my time trusting in this marriage and this man? Read the rest of this entry »

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Red Responds: Will They Ever Stop Cheating?

January 8, 2012 at 12:00 am
By Psychic Red ext. 9226

Friday Friday from Nigeria asks:

If I forgive a cheating partner, does that means that they will not cheat again? When should we accept them back into the relationship?

Dear Friday,

To forgive a partner of betrayal is no easy task. But, in order to truly forgive, and give your relationship a chance, both parties have to work on the relationship and rebuild trust.

When a person cheats, it doesn’t mean that they are destined to continue cheating. However, the opposite is also true—there are no concrete guarantees that someone will not stray again, given the opportunity. There really isn’t a blanket “yes or no” answer to such a general question. It really depends on the parties involved. Read the rest of this entry »

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Red Responds: Remove New Job Jitters

January 1, 2012 at 12:00 am
By Psychic Red ext. 9226

You’ve Earned This New Job

Daphne from Jerusalem Region asks:

I left my last workplace, which I worked in for 13 years, in a negative way. I’m starting a new job next month in a place which I feel has new positive energy and is extremely demanding. Being new and coping with a new field within my work are a big challenge. Can you give me some insights about my new job and give me tips on how to succeed?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Daphne,

From what I can see, you made a very good choice with changing your working arena. Your new job will have its challenges, but is nowhere near as suppressive as the job you left. Read the rest of this entry »

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Red Responds: Is He In Love With Someone Else?

December 24, 2011 at 12:00 am
By Psychic Red ext. 9226

He Should Only Love Me, Right?

Sonia Roa from Pune asks:

Why do people get attracted to someone else when your present partner does everything to keep you happy?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Sonia,

There are many reasons why people find themselves attracted to others, even when they are restricted by the boundaries of an existing relationship. Having a defined relationship and dedicated partner may dictate being exclusive—but being exclusive doesn’t mean that a person ceases to feel or find others attractive. Read the rest of this entry »

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Red Responds: Does He Love Me or Not?

December 18, 2011 at 1:00 pm
By Psychic Red ext. 9226

Erin from Mount Pleasant asks:

What does it mean when you tell someone how you feel, and they say, “I don’t know what to say.”

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Erin,

In your case, “I don’t know what to say,” was actually an honest response. You sort of caught your friend off-guard, and gave him a lot to think about. Your friend is not one by nature to make rash decisions or quick responses. So, since that conversation, there’s been a lot of thinking going on.

Your friend cares an awful lot about you, but also fears how things can change. You’re in the midst of a process of waiting things out. It’s going to take time, and things are going to move slowly, but it does look like things are going to move. Read the rest of this entry »

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Red Responds: Fight for Your True Love

November 26, 2011 at 5:00 pm
By Psychic Red ext. 9226

With Psychic Help, Clear Away Doubt

Abdulrahman from Lagos, Nigeria asks:

My old girlfriend wants to get back together again with me. We parted ways because of her father. He was against us being together in the first place. In an African setting, fathers have their say. Should I wait for him to accept us or allow nature to take its course?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Abdulrahman,

The love between your old girlfriend and you is true, and not without hope. However, both of you will be struggling against what boils down to a timing issue, because her father is not yet ready to accept that his daughter’s choice is you. Read the rest of this entry »

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Red Responds: End Your Affair

November 19, 2011 at 5:00 pm
By Psychic Red ext. 9226

Sally from Albuquerque asks:

I have been in an extramarital relationship for six years, and I want to end it. What do I say? He is manipulative, and, as a Leo, will want to fix the situation. Do I owe him an explanation, if he only wants to argue with me about my reasons?

Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:

Dear Sally,

Your soon-to-be-ex lover can be quite difficult, but that doesn’t mean you can’t handle it. You just need to prepare yourself to handle things a little differently. Every time you allow him to draw you into a discussion or argument, you are surrendering your power and wobbling in your convictions. This is very problematic, not to mention stressful. Read the rest of this entry »

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