Check Your Bags at the Door
A suitcase, a steamer trunk or a whole storage unit… we all have it, but do we need to keep it with us? Baggage isn’t always bad, it contains memories and loads of life’s lessons. However, baggage can be like dirty laundry, and I wonder if we need to expose our stinky stuff to others just because we have it?
Does having a rough upbringing give one permission to be anything less than a nice person when growing up? So many times in friendships and other relationships, people explain bad behavior away by bringing up past hardships from childhood.
I’m not your mother or father or sister or any other family member that might have treated you unkind, so why are you treating me unkindly? If you have a problem with your family, tell them and get it out of the way so that if you want to be friends we have a clear path to enjoy each other on. Baggage is very hard to deal with when forming friendships. How many times can you listen to the same thing? Okay, I get it. Your mother was not a mom, but Mommy Dearest. Your dad was never home and distracted with making a living. Your sisters and brothers got more attention then you. Okay, I get it. But I wonder why you treat me the way they treated you?
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