Sex Q&A: Are You Sexually Compatible With Him?
May 22, 2013 at 1:00 pm
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The Sexual Being She Used to Be
Katarina from Malmö, Sweden writes:
Dear Liam,
I’ve been dealing with emotional issues my whole life (depression and borderline/IPS), and I have come a long way. I am currently in a relationship with a very kind and understanding man. When I was younger I used to be very sexual, but it was always tied to my emotional explosiveness—my “darker” side if you’d like. I had several slightly unhealthy relationships, but the sex was always great (for me). Fighting, crying, desperation, feeling like it was the end of the world—all that intense drama turned me on. Now I’m older, more integrated into this society of ours and the outbursts have become a much smaller part of me. But I feel that I have lost a big part of my sexuality with it.
I am a monogamous person (I actually don’t like people very much, and VERY rarely get interested in anyone, whether it be on a friendship-level or more intimately) and I want a lasting, loving relationship, but the steadiness and healthiness of “normal” life and love doesn’t turn me on. I am afraid that if I was to act in a way that would turn me on sexually, not only would I set my psychological progress back a decade, but I would also ruin my relationship. He is someone who doesn’t even want to have make-up sex after fighting. How do I find my way back to the sexual being I used to be without bringing back all of the destructiveness that used to come with it?
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Paying Karmic Debt
May 22, 2013 at 12:00 amMind & Body: Managing Your Karma
If you want to pay your karmic debt, you can do so by taking action every day. Karma is translated as “action,” and is a Sanskrit word. It portrays the Buddhist idea that “You will receive what you give.” Other people say, “What you put out into the world will come back to you.” To pay karmic debt isn’t about material and financial means. It is about ridding yourself of all negativity and negative actions with the good intentions of paying off your karmic debt. If you are wondering how you can pay off your karmic debt, check out these actions and tips below to cleanse yourself and rid yourself of any debt that you do not want to return to you.
Stop the Negativity in its Tracks
If you find that your thoughts are consumed with negativity, purge these thoughts and try to replace them with positive ones. For example, if its dark and rainy outside, be thankful that there aren’t any life-threatening tornadoes or hurricanes. If you are upset with the outcome of a meal you just made for the family, instead of criticizing it and pulling it apart, think of how lucky you and your family are to have food on the table.
3 Signs it’s Time to Move on in Your Life
May 22, 2013 at 12:00 amLet Us Help You Decide
The only constant in life is change, as the saying goes. Remaining on a plateau whether in your career or with a person who is no longer right for you is destructive, no matter how comfortable you may feel. We are meant to change, to grow and to move forward. Sometimes, though, we need a better perspective before we know when it’s time to make the leap. Let’s look at a few major signs that it’s time to pack your bags and begin life’s next journey.
Burnout
Putting everything you’ve got into a job or relationship will eventually wear you down. If your spirit is exhausted and your efforts are not being reciprocated properly, it’s time to think about a career or relationship that feels worth the effort and sacrifice.
12 Kinds of Sex to Avoid
May 22, 2013 at 12:00 amWhen Too Far is Too Far
Sex is a big topic in relationships these days. You’ve got the people getting too much of it (often from the wrong people, a.k.a. cheating), not enough, or the wrong kind (bad sex). While you may think you know the difference between healthy and unhealthy sex… do you really?
1. Make-Up Sex
Make-up sex can be a hit or miss affair. It works for some, and not for others. It is particularly damaging if one partner sees it as a fix-all to every argument. This is when a partner heads for the bedroom every time a disagreement starts up. Then, after the hormones settle, someone is usually left feeling lonely and cheated. You should also be aware that this kind of sex may reward your partner for creating drama in the relationship, which means you may end up seeing a lot more of it.
Blessings for Dummies
May 21, 2013 at 12:00 pm
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Are You Ready to Get Blessed?
This article was inspired by a customer (she knows who she is) who suggested to me that she needed to get a book called “Blessings for Dummies.” She said this when I asked her if she knew what blessing was or how to bless a person or situation. She said, “You know, I really don’t know how to bless or what blessing actually is.”
We all have the power to bless and doing so can produce profoundly positive results in any situation or conflict we may have. In my own life and the lives of others I have seen the active power of blessing a situation create sudden, rapid resolution of messy conflict or estrangement, safety in a difficult situation or as simple a result as finding my own car to be the only one on the street without a parking ticket.
Date and Love a Gemini
May 21, 2013 at 12:00 amMan/Woman: About the Twins
Gemini is depicted as the twins, representing the duality and very humanness of this expressive sign. It’s not easy to tell a Gemini’s age. They have a youthful enthusiasm for life and boredom will never be an issue for them. If they ever find themselves without a challenge or adventure, they’ll create one. Geminis are ruled by Mercury, so communication is their gift. So is their ability to talk an Eskimo into buying tons of ice that they really don’t need but somehow they simply must have. That is Gemini’s power of persuasion at its creative best. Convincing and endearing, Gemini is the consummate optimist and their minds move at lightning speeds. They do get moody and can have their darker moments, but they won’t last and they’ll probably be forgotten, at least by them. There is in Gemini a tendency to rationalize feelings they can’t explain—their actions are almost always prompted by thought rather than emotion.
Dating a Gemini
Geminis aren’t the most romantic, but they are fun to date and they have a genuine enthusiasm for the experience of dating. They want to show you the world they know and beyond and they are genuinely excited about doing so. Geminis have a bad rap for not being monogamous. They are flirty and do like to engage the group around them. But all a Gemini needs is to date someone who has many sides to their personality and who is as eccentric as they are. This ironically is what tethers them to an earthy approach to dating rather than continually floating in the clouds or looking for the next adventure.
Astrology: Use the Power of the Stars
May 21, 2013 at 12:00 amThe Power of Eclipses
Since ancient times, wise men and women have been awed by the power of the universe accessed through interacting, or “tuning in” with nature. The most potent of spiritual and magical practices are meditating and practicing focused, creative thinking while observing/interacting with the majesty of the planets and stars.
So many of our religious images, magical practices, divination, and of course, astrology, come from watching the sky and seeing activities on earth relating to those taking place in the heavens. Recent interpretations of clay tablets from the ancient star-gazer/priests in Mesopotamia show the birth of many of these practices, along with recent discoveries/realizations from archeo-astronomy.
Psychic Josie: Symbolic Release Ceremonies
May 21, 2013 at 12:00 amLet it Go Once and for All!
What are you storing in your soul? Were you teased by a classmate? Did your parents get divorced when you were young? Did you have to give up a college education for family obligations? Did the love of your life cheat on you? Most of us have fears, disappointments and trust issues stored in our souls and we need to do something to get rid of them. Psychic Josie says, “A lot of what we store in our souls causes dis-ease or disease so we have to do something to get rid of the negativity that weighs us down and keeps our vibrations low.” She suggests performing a symbolic release ceremony.
Now before some of you get freaked out and think Josie is talking about witchcraft or casting spells, she isn’t. Ceremonies play a huge part in our human lives. Think about the numerous rituals different cultures perform to celebrate events in the human life cycle, like jumping over a broom or blowing out birthday candles. We perform rituals or ceremonies to signify the beginning or the end of something—a new life or a death, for example. This isn’t magic. It’s just doing something special. According to Josie, “Doing something special to commemorate or celebrate an event gives it more depth.” A symbolic release ceremony works much in the same way—it’s something you do for yourself and something you do to change yourself.
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