Following Your Heart, Not Others’ Expectations

Some of the most heartbreaking questions I get come from ladies who are in love with other ladies who are married. To men. To complicate matters further, there are children. There are relatives of the married lady who expect the lady to stay married, raise the children, have a good marriage and otherwise conform to what they feel is the “right” way to be. Two people have fallen in love with each other and have a difficult situation to work with.

I want to say that I have a real fondness for the gays and lesbians who call me. I can identify with their pain and frustration and greatly admire their very real desire to have a permanent commitment and a forever life with someone. Gays and lesbians who call always seem to me to be very perceptive, very patient and very real in their feelings. A lot of the time they just want to know how long they should wait for their feelings to be reciprocated or if indeed, they should give up and move on. Read the rest of this entry »